National Security: FamilyOct 22nd, 2013 | By Admin | Category: Editorials
I’m 65 and on the backside of life’s journey. Family means a lot to me; not just my family, but families in general. Here is some personal philosophy – the family is the building block of society. It’s like the foundation of a building. When the foundation is strong, the building above it will be on solid ground and stand the test of time. When the building blocks crumble or were never in place to begin with, the building falls apart. So it is with families. Strong family bonds yield a better society. When those family bonds are broken, or never established in the beginning, the structure of society deteriorates. With my experience in life, I pay attention to culture, more than in prior years. I respect culture but some things I see disturb me. Let me give you an example. Two weeks ago, I heard that the infant son of a professional athlete had been murdered. The more I learned about the story, the more disturbing was the tale. Apparently, this athlete had fathered seven children with different women, none of whom he married. I don’t know that he had even seen the youngster who was brutally killed by another man, let alone did the things that is expected of a father. What is a father supposed to do in a traditional, intact family? He is to provide for his family, support them in every way, and pass on his values and learning to his children. He should love his wife and by doing so, set the example for his children and others. I do recognize that today many women are the primary bread winners in their family and the role of their husband is different as a result. The important thing is that their roles are established and they support each other, and in the process, their children. It shouldn’t surprise you to know that I believe in intact families. That means two parents supporting each other and blending their lives to raise their children … together. Two lives, living as one. That’s the way God intended it. Some politicians argue that “it takes a village” to properly raise children. No it doesn’t. It takes a family, beginning with a mother and dad. This is where the learning experience begins … in the home with the family long before there is school, friends, etc. Again, the learning experience begins at home. If that family is broken apart, or never existed in the first place, then the learning experience suffers. Many, many children arrive at school with a deficit of learning because of mistakes or omissions in the home during the formative years. To think that a teacher or school can make up that deficit in the classroom is nothing more than wishful thinking. Neither the school nor society can change the culture that the child has grown to know and the values that are a product of that culture. Far too many children are the product of a sexual union without accompanying marriage. The cliché “who’s your daddy” is often a serious question rather than a throwaway phrase. Trust me: this is not a positive environment to raise children. Divorce used to be difficult. When my mother received a divorce decree in 1943 from her first husband, she had to wait six months by law before marrying. The culture has changed 70 years later, and in my opinion, not for the better. We’ve made divorce far too easy, and as a result, commonplace. Rather than seeking counseling when times are difficult, the couple takes the easy way out and split. There are far too many children being raised in single parent households. Often, poverty complicates the matter. The one parent is too often overwhelmed with doing so much that there isn’t time or energy available to properly parent the kids. This is what I mean when I say that the learning experience of the child suffers. I just returned from attending two family weddings, one on the west coast and another in Central Florida. I prayed for God’s blessing on these new marriages that they would result in a lifetime of shared experiences; that the newly married would share life’s ups and downs, working together to cope with every challenge; and to transform a wedding ceremony into a marriage with unshakeable bonds. Some may argue that my value set on this matter is old fashioned and out of touch with 21st Century life in America. That’s certainly possible, but I know what works and what doesn’t. In the current culture, I see too many examples of the breakdown in the American family to think that this is either justified or proper. I believe to the core of my soul in dual parent intact families.